| Sincere Thanks to Those Who Have Shared Their Stories.... |
Birth Mother Found 2004
Hi Berta -- well, we finally were able to talk to Roxie and wow!! It was great. She sounds fantastic and is thrilled about being
contacted. She told her husband and he sounds very supportive. She hasn't told her son yet, she wants to do it in person in May. So,
it looks like Don will be meeting his mother and brother next month! Roxie is very thankful for this search and we could not have done
it without you! I wish there was some way we could repay the kindness you have shown us. Please remember, that our door is
always open should you want to visit the DC area! We will let you know the updates, but it looks like there will be a positive outcome
to all of this! So, thank you Berta, for everything. You have touched several lives in this process and made them a little better (ok a lot
better)!!
Jan
NOTE: This was a reunion that could have gone either way. When I contacted Don's birthmom I was not sure she would go forward
with a reunion. She had never told her husband of the birth and adoption of Don nor had she told her other son. She said she
needed some time to think and would be in touch. We waited a couple of weeks and about the time I started to think we might not
hear from her she called. Getting her message on my machine was the greatest! She had summoned up the courage to tell her
husband and he was being very supportive of her making contact. This story is a success in a number of ways. Not only have Don
and his birth mother been reunited, Don is also gaining a brother and Roxie (his birth mom) has been able to shed the burden of
this long held secret.
Throughout it all Don amazed me with his positive attitude and his belief that things would work out as they were meant to. His wife
Jan is the greatest and I have very much enjoyed helping them both with this search.
Berta Wilder
This is from a client who's birth mother doesn't feel she can meet him or have any contact. She never told her family about the
adoption............
Success Isn't Always a Fairytale Ending
Berta,
Just wanted to say Hi, and let you know that I am OK with the way things have turned-out. I knew going into this that there was a
possibility that contact would not be made. So, although it was disappointing, it was not a total surprise. Although I have not met the
birth mother, I still have had some form of closure. I know that she exists and that there are 'siblings' out there, the search has
ended. Yes, there are some questions like: what do they look like; what are they like; in essence, who are they really? Maybe I will
never know, but maybe????? Obviously she is not in a place to meet with me, and may never get there, and I respect that. If she
does ever get there, I hope she has kept your contact info so that she can come looking. If she does not ever get there, at least one
question has been answered for her, I have a very happy life, and I hope that (at least) can make her feel better.
As I have said before, I have a wonderful family; A mother, father, brother, sister, and niece that all love me in a very big way. I also
have a wonderful wife that is my newest family, which will someday grow. This search was never about finding a family, since I have
one already. It was looking for the one small little part that was missing, the beginnings of my life. That has (somewhat) been found. I
feel more whole now. I can now go forward not feeling that I need to look back anymore.
Thanks for all that you have done
Tony
My Response to Tony's letter.....
Hello Tony,
Thank you for the heartfelt letter. This is certainly not the outcome I wish for any of the adoptees or birthfamily members I work with.
However it is always a possibility. It is my belief that your birth mother's fear of what her family will think of this secret she has held for
so long that is keeping her from opening a door for you. Over the course of 35 years that fear has probably turned into a huge and
unrealistic idea...but it's out of our control.
Tony, when you sent me your photos and I saw that great smile it confirmed what I had already concluded thru our emails and phone
calls- you are a wonderful young man. You have a smile that involves your entire face!!! Best of all you are wise enough to keep all of
this in perspective and that is such a blessing.Your wife is a lucky woman to have you and indeed I have no doubt that the family you
create together will be very, very special.
Would you consider letting me post your letter to my website's "Reunion Stories" page? I will not use any last names. I really think it's
important for people to see that things don't always turn out perfectly and that closure can also be considered success. Your letter
really summed it up well.
Everyone that passes through my life in these searches leaves a mark. I will always hold you close in prayer Tony.
My Best, Berta
Elizabeth's Story
On Christmas Day 2001, my mother and I were chatting online, when all of a sudden she typed, "You know, there's another". I said I
knew it. Really, I knew but, I didn't. When I was in high school, I found adoption papers on a baby girl. I recall my mom having a baby
6 days before my 6th birthday but, my stepfather told me she died; that's why they didn't bring her home. Well, when I saw the
adoption papers, my naive mind thought maybe the adoption paper was just a formality so the state could take care of the burial. I
still thought of her often. As I got older, I got more curious and smarter. I just knew I had a sister out there somewhere. I even called
my grandmother one day, crying and asking if my mom had a baby that died when I was little. She said she didn't think so and knew
nothing about it. I just let it go at that point. I figured my mom would tell me someday and she finally did!
With my sister's information in hand, I started a search. The internet was full of sites! It was overwhelming. I read about a lot of fees
too. With a limited budget, I decided to just post my sister's information on a couple of sites that seemed to have the biggest
databases. Then, I just sat back and waited, checking back on the sites periodically.
I got a phone call about a month later from a man saying he might be able to help me since he had access to many extensive
databases. I said asked him what his fee was and he told me $500. That was way over my budget at the time and I was skeptical so,
I never called him back.
2 years later.........I got an e-mail from Berta. She must have been browsing all the posts and came across mine that has been there
for over 2 years. I told her I definitely wanted to do the search! Within 2 days and a much lower affordable fee, she found my sister!!!
The very next day, my sister called me! WOW!! We had a wonderful loooong conversation and exchanged many stories, addresses,
phone numbers and PICTURES!! I felt so close to her it was amazing! I have waited a long time for this day!! Now, I have my sister for
the rest of our lives!
That was just yesterday! We are already planning a vacation together in June since we live on opposite sides of the country.
Finding my sister has been better than I ever could have dreamed! I had all kinds of worries way in the back of my mind. All of the
"what-ifs" disappeared the moment I heard her voice!
THANK YOU BERTA !!!!!
Love, Elizabeth
Hi Berta -- well, we finally were able to talk to Roxie and wow!! It was great. She sounds fantastic and is thrilled about being
contacted. She told her husband and he sounds very supportive. She hasn't told her son yet, she wants to do it in person in May. So,
it looks like Don will be meeting his mother and brother next month! Roxie is very thankful for this search and we could not have done
it without you! I wish there was some way we could repay the kindness you have shown us. Please remember, that our door is
always open should you want to visit the DC area! We will let you know the updates, but it looks like there will be a positive outcome
to all of this! So, thank you Berta, for everything. You have touched several lives in this process and made them a little better (ok a lot
better)!!
Jan
NOTE: This was a reunion that could have gone either way. When I contacted Don's birthmom I was not sure she would go forward
with a reunion. She had never told her husband of the birth and adoption of Don nor had she told her other son. She said she
needed some time to think and would be in touch. We waited a couple of weeks and about the time I started to think we might not
hear from her she called. Getting her message on my machine was the greatest! She had summoned up the courage to tell her
husband and he was being very supportive of her making contact. This story is a success in a number of ways. Not only have Don
and his birth mother been reunited, Don is also gaining a brother and Roxie (his birth mom) has been able to shed the burden of
this long held secret.
Throughout it all Don amazed me with his positive attitude and his belief that things would work out as they were meant to. His wife
Jan is the greatest and I have very much enjoyed helping them both with this search.
Berta Wilder
This is from a client who's birth mother doesn't feel she can meet him or have any contact. She never told her family about the
adoption............
Success Isn't Always a Fairytale Ending
Berta,
Just wanted to say Hi, and let you know that I am OK with the way things have turned-out. I knew going into this that there was a
possibility that contact would not be made. So, although it was disappointing, it was not a total surprise. Although I have not met the
birth mother, I still have had some form of closure. I know that she exists and that there are 'siblings' out there, the search has
ended. Yes, there are some questions like: what do they look like; what are they like; in essence, who are they really? Maybe I will
never know, but maybe????? Obviously she is not in a place to meet with me, and may never get there, and I respect that. If she
does ever get there, I hope she has kept your contact info so that she can come looking. If she does not ever get there, at least one
question has been answered for her, I have a very happy life, and I hope that (at least) can make her feel better.
As I have said before, I have a wonderful family; A mother, father, brother, sister, and niece that all love me in a very big way. I also
have a wonderful wife that is my newest family, which will someday grow. This search was never about finding a family, since I have
one already. It was looking for the one small little part that was missing, the beginnings of my life. That has (somewhat) been found. I
feel more whole now. I can now go forward not feeling that I need to look back anymore.
Thanks for all that you have done
Tony
My Response to Tony's letter.....
Hello Tony,
Thank you for the heartfelt letter. This is certainly not the outcome I wish for any of the adoptees or birthfamily members I work with.
However it is always a possibility. It is my belief that your birth mother's fear of what her family will think of this secret she has held for
so long that is keeping her from opening a door for you. Over the course of 35 years that fear has probably turned into a huge and
unrealistic idea...but it's out of our control.
Tony, when you sent me your photos and I saw that great smile it confirmed what I had already concluded thru our emails and phone
calls- you are a wonderful young man. You have a smile that involves your entire face!!! Best of all you are wise enough to keep all of
this in perspective and that is such a blessing.Your wife is a lucky woman to have you and indeed I have no doubt that the family you
create together will be very, very special.
Would you consider letting me post your letter to my website's "Reunion Stories" page? I will not use any last names. I really think it's
important for people to see that things don't always turn out perfectly and that closure can also be considered success. Your letter
really summed it up well.
Everyone that passes through my life in these searches leaves a mark. I will always hold you close in prayer Tony.
My Best, Berta
Elizabeth's Story
On Christmas Day 2001, my mother and I were chatting online, when all of a sudden she typed, "You know, there's another". I said I
knew it. Really, I knew but, I didn't. When I was in high school, I found adoption papers on a baby girl. I recall my mom having a baby
6 days before my 6th birthday but, my stepfather told me she died; that's why they didn't bring her home. Well, when I saw the
adoption papers, my naive mind thought maybe the adoption paper was just a formality so the state could take care of the burial. I
still thought of her often. As I got older, I got more curious and smarter. I just knew I had a sister out there somewhere. I even called
my grandmother one day, crying and asking if my mom had a baby that died when I was little. She said she didn't think so and knew
nothing about it. I just let it go at that point. I figured my mom would tell me someday and she finally did!
With my sister's information in hand, I started a search. The internet was full of sites! It was overwhelming. I read about a lot of fees
too. With a limited budget, I decided to just post my sister's information on a couple of sites that seemed to have the biggest
databases. Then, I just sat back and waited, checking back on the sites periodically.
I got a phone call about a month later from a man saying he might be able to help me since he had access to many extensive
databases. I said asked him what his fee was and he told me $500. That was way over my budget at the time and I was skeptical so,
I never called him back.
2 years later.........I got an e-mail from Berta. She must have been browsing all the posts and came across mine that has been there
for over 2 years. I told her I definitely wanted to do the search! Within 2 days and a much lower affordable fee, she found my sister!!!
The very next day, my sister called me! WOW!! We had a wonderful loooong conversation and exchanged many stories, addresses,
phone numbers and PICTURES!! I felt so close to her it was amazing! I have waited a long time for this day!! Now, I have my sister for
the rest of our lives!
That was just yesterday! We are already planning a vacation together in June since we live on opposite sides of the country.
Finding my sister has been better than I ever could have dreamed! I had all kinds of worries way in the back of my mind. All of the
"what-ifs" disappeared the moment I heard her voice!
THANK YOU BERTA !!!!!
Love, Elizabeth
Birth Siblings Reunited!
Berta, I had to let you know that I have found my family and we had brunch together today. It was a day and experience that I will never
forget. After 57years I have found where I came from. I have 2 older sisters, 2 younger sisters and 1 brother. We all share the same
mother. If it hadn't been for you and the information that you sent me, I might have kept on looking. It had been a dream of mine, only
for the medical aspect. However, they too had been looking for me for the past 4 years. I had only been seriously looking for the past
year. Then you came along and everything fell into place. The info was given to Ancestry.com on the 1st of January 2004, you
emailed the info that next day. I didn't know what to do, so my daughter contacted them this past Wednesday and here we are today.
Ours was by chance and it turned out so very good. I have been welcomed by all so far and I can only hope that you will continue to
do whatever you do for all adoptees, who are searching. I had a wonderful mom and dad and a loving family and life. Now I am
joined by another part of my natural life.
THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart and also my children THANK YOU as well.
Sincerely, Sharon
Berta, I had to let you know that I have found my family and we had brunch together today. It was a day and experience that I will never
forget. After 57years I have found where I came from. I have 2 older sisters, 2 younger sisters and 1 brother. We all share the same
mother. If it hadn't been for you and the information that you sent me, I might have kept on looking. It had been a dream of mine, only
for the medical aspect. However, they too had been looking for me for the past 4 years. I had only been seriously looking for the past
year. Then you came along and everything fell into place. The info was given to Ancestry.com on the 1st of January 2004, you
emailed the info that next day. I didn't know what to do, so my daughter contacted them this past Wednesday and here we are today.
Ours was by chance and it turned out so very good. I have been welcomed by all so far and I can only hope that you will continue to
do whatever you do for all adoptees, who are searching. I had a wonderful mom and dad and a loving family and life. Now I am
joined by another part of my natural life.
THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart and also my children THANK YOU as well.
Sincerely, Sharon
Dreams Do Come True February, 2004
Well this is how our story goes. My sister and I were adopted. She was from one family and I was from another. We both were
babies. We were 18 months apart. We had known all our lives of being adopted. We were very special we were told. We had a
wonderful life together. We were very lucky.
The unfortunate thing was our parents divorced when we were 4 years old and 2. Our adoptive parents did their very best job in
insuring that we got the best care and that we would not suffer from their divorce. The were wonderful! However, our adoptive
mother died of cancer when I was 18 and my sister was 16. We loved her very much. We miss her very much. We both had a great
loss.
We considered looking for our biological parent's. Our adoptive dad gave us his permission. My sister searched for years until she
finally gave up. I contacted the adoption agency only to get very little information. Enough to make me happy and be satisfied with.
This was when computers were not readily available. I basically did not search. I was really afraid of being turned away from my
biological family after just loosing my adoptive mother.
Many years had passed and one day my adopted sister called frantically saying her birth family had found her. That was due to the
help of Berta. Wow! All these years finally, but we were all very afraid. We had a wonderful reunion for my sister and since then she
has been developing a wonderful relationship with her biological mother and siblings. After meeting my sister's family they
convinced me several months later to try searching for my biological mother and family. I decided after much thought to search.
I got Berta's phone number and called her asking her to help me. I gave her the pertinent information. Which was not much. After
six days one morning she called and said you better sit down. She had found my mother and family. I cried a lot that day. I got the
strength to call my mother and when my biological sister answered the phone I am sure she had know idea that it was her sister. I
asked for my mother and she came to the phone. She was so sweet and wanted to talk to me. She had told my biological siblings
about their sister. They often wondered where she had been placed. They would pick out friends of theirs that were adopted and
say you could be my sister. I have to say that I couldn't have been from nicer people.
It has been emotional at times. This is all normal. It is very difficult to expect it to be perfect because your biological family has not
been with you nor have they seen you grow up, or experience things in life. But, if you keep in mind that the worse thing that could
happen is they really do not want a relationship. I promise that it is well worth knowing who they are and family genealogy, medical
information, and any necessary information for you live to happily with yourself.
I have to thank Berta so much for giving me and my children the joy of knowing my biological family. I am so glad I finally got the
courage and strength to search! Life would have been incomplete. The book would never be finished and who has a perfect family
anyway! I love my biological mother and family so much. Sometimes I still find it hard to look at them and not cry. It is unbelievable
sometimes but, no one can ever take away my relationship with my adopted sister and I. For anyone considering searching please
know for all the tears, worries and concerns you may have it outweighs not searching!
Thank you Berta!!!!
Love Bobbie
Well this is how our story goes. My sister and I were adopted. She was from one family and I was from another. We both were
babies. We were 18 months apart. We had known all our lives of being adopted. We were very special we were told. We had a
wonderful life together. We were very lucky.
The unfortunate thing was our parents divorced when we were 4 years old and 2. Our adoptive parents did their very best job in
insuring that we got the best care and that we would not suffer from their divorce. The were wonderful! However, our adoptive
mother died of cancer when I was 18 and my sister was 16. We loved her very much. We miss her very much. We both had a great
loss.
We considered looking for our biological parent's. Our adoptive dad gave us his permission. My sister searched for years until she
finally gave up. I contacted the adoption agency only to get very little information. Enough to make me happy and be satisfied with.
This was when computers were not readily available. I basically did not search. I was really afraid of being turned away from my
biological family after just loosing my adoptive mother.
Many years had passed and one day my adopted sister called frantically saying her birth family had found her. That was due to the
help of Berta. Wow! All these years finally, but we were all very afraid. We had a wonderful reunion for my sister and since then she
has been developing a wonderful relationship with her biological mother and siblings. After meeting my sister's family they
convinced me several months later to try searching for my biological mother and family. I decided after much thought to search.
I got Berta's phone number and called her asking her to help me. I gave her the pertinent information. Which was not much. After
six days one morning she called and said you better sit down. She had found my mother and family. I cried a lot that day. I got the
strength to call my mother and when my biological sister answered the phone I am sure she had know idea that it was her sister. I
asked for my mother and she came to the phone. She was so sweet and wanted to talk to me. She had told my biological siblings
about their sister. They often wondered where she had been placed. They would pick out friends of theirs that were adopted and
say you could be my sister. I have to say that I couldn't have been from nicer people.
It has been emotional at times. This is all normal. It is very difficult to expect it to be perfect because your biological family has not
been with you nor have they seen you grow up, or experience things in life. But, if you keep in mind that the worse thing that could
happen is they really do not want a relationship. I promise that it is well worth knowing who they are and family genealogy, medical
information, and any necessary information for you live to happily with yourself.
I have to thank Berta so much for giving me and my children the joy of knowing my biological family. I am so glad I finally got the
courage and strength to search! Life would have been incomplete. The book would never be finished and who has a perfect family
anyway! I love my biological mother and family so much. Sometimes I still find it hard to look at them and not cry. It is unbelievable
sometimes but, no one can ever take away my relationship with my adopted sister and I. For anyone considering searching please
know for all the tears, worries and concerns you may have it outweighs not searching!
Thank you Berta!!!!
Love Bobbie
Our Family Story
By Cristina Curbey, 2004
My mother gave birth to a son when she was 21. She named him Timothy. She was young, unwed, and had absolutely no
support. Having a rough childhood herself she wanted so much more for her son than she could provide. She wanted him to have
a loving family to grow up with and all the things in life a child should have. She made the hardest decision of her life and gave
him up for adoption.
I learned of my brother when I was in junior high school. It was such a shock! I wondered what he looked like, if he knew about his
adoption, and if he was trying to find us. From that day, I loved him and wanted to find him! When I spoke to my mother about it she
became very emotional. She gave me all of the information she could remember. We did not want to interrupt his life but wanted
him to be able to find us if he was looking. For almost four years now, I have been posting information on every website I could
find.
Every night I pray for my brother. About a year ago, I finally gave my search to God. Then on February 4, 2004 my whole life
changed! I checked an email account that I don't use very often. There was an email from a lady named Berta. It had been sent to
me in January. She asked if I had found my brother and if not she might be able to help. I replied and received another email
immediately. At first I thought it was a hoax, however she had his correct birth date. We had been two days off. Then I called "Berta"
and she explained her services. Immediately I spoke to my mother. I told her how nice this lady was and how she truly seemed to
care. We decided to go ahead with Berta's assistance.
On the February 8th I spoke to Berta again. She had a phone number for him which had no answer. She sent me his information
and told me she would try again later. I couldn't wait to contact my brother Arthur Lee. I honestly did not know what I was going to
say if he answered the phone. My biggest fear was that he did not know he was adopted. My mother and I decided early on that if
he did not want to talk we would honor his wish. Our closure would come from knowing that he is alive and well.
With very little preparation I called the number. A deep southern voice answered the phone. I asked for Arthur Lee. The voice
replied, "This is Arthur Lee. Who are you calling with?" I told him that I might be his sister. I gave him information about himself
which he verified. We were both shaking and so excited! He had originally thought me to be a telemarketer! I told Arthur, who goes
by his middle name Lee, about our mom, myself and my older brother Jeremy. Lee told me all about himself and his family. He
has a beautiful wife and two younger siblings. His parents are wonderful people who told him from the beginning that he was
adopted and never loved him any less than their birth children.
After an hour and a half on the phone he was ready to talk to mom. I called her and said her son was expecting her call. She was
so excited! They spoke for over an hour exchanging pictures via email. He now knows where he got his full lips and high
cheekbones! Lee has our mom's smile! He understands the situation regarding his adoption and has no hard feelings. She
spoke to his wife, Melanie, who she said is such a sweetheart! Mom was elated to find out that he's had such a wonderful life! He
has experienced the life she dreamed for him before he was even born!
Lee and I talked late into the night. Not only did I find my brother, but gained a sister-in-law as well! They are both such wonderful
people and I'm so happy to finally have them in our lives! The best news is that his parents are as excited to meet us and we are
to meet them! We are making arrangements for the reunion to happen very soon!
Yesterday was the first day of the rest of our lives! My mother and I went into this hoping for the best, expecting the worst, and
came out with more than we could ever hope for! We woke up this morning knowing that we are all still here and ready for a
relationship that will last a lifetime!
Berta, you are truly a Godsend to this family! Thank you for all you've done for us! God bless you and your gift for reuniting loved
ones!
To be continued . . .
The following is a letter from "Lee" Christina's brother...
Berta,
Words can't describe. It has been an amazing 5 days for me. I talk on the phone all day at work and never even answer the phone
when I am at home. So it was truly shocking the one time I did pick the phone up on a lazy Sunday afternoon to get news like this.
Well, since Sunday, I have been on the phone with Cristina well past midnight 3 out of the 4 nights.
I have forwarded Cristina's story to many of my friends. The response has been so supportive.
My Mom and Dad are even excited about meeting everyone! At first I wasn't sure how they would fell about all this. I know how I
feel. I know how much I love them and all the things they have done for me. I was raised to do the right thing and work hard at
anything I do. I can't express the love and pride I have for my Mom and Dad. I am so glad they know this, as I know they love me
equally as much as my younger sister and brother, their paternal children. I can't even tell a story without bragging on my brother
and sister; they both mean so much to me. I have 3 nephews that are the most special people; the oldest of the 3 is truly special
to me. I get excited every time I talk to him! We are even going to spend some time together this summer! I could NEVER live
anywhere unless I was within driving distance of them. They are so special to me!
My parents and I talked again last night about meeting with my long lost relatives. They are as excited, if not more, to meet them
as they are us! Both of them stated how much they want to meet Dee face to face and thank her for sending me to them 35 years
ago.
To hear my Dad talk about the baby picture Dee sent me was very touching. I could hear the emotion in his voice, something you
aren't supposed to hear from us big southern men! We are making plans to meet in April.
Thanks,
Lee
By Cristina Curbey, 2004
My mother gave birth to a son when she was 21. She named him Timothy. She was young, unwed, and had absolutely no
support. Having a rough childhood herself she wanted so much more for her son than she could provide. She wanted him to have
a loving family to grow up with and all the things in life a child should have. She made the hardest decision of her life and gave
him up for adoption.
I learned of my brother when I was in junior high school. It was such a shock! I wondered what he looked like, if he knew about his
adoption, and if he was trying to find us. From that day, I loved him and wanted to find him! When I spoke to my mother about it she
became very emotional. She gave me all of the information she could remember. We did not want to interrupt his life but wanted
him to be able to find us if he was looking. For almost four years now, I have been posting information on every website I could
find.
Every night I pray for my brother. About a year ago, I finally gave my search to God. Then on February 4, 2004 my whole life
changed! I checked an email account that I don't use very often. There was an email from a lady named Berta. It had been sent to
me in January. She asked if I had found my brother and if not she might be able to help. I replied and received another email
immediately. At first I thought it was a hoax, however she had his correct birth date. We had been two days off. Then I called "Berta"
and she explained her services. Immediately I spoke to my mother. I told her how nice this lady was and how she truly seemed to
care. We decided to go ahead with Berta's assistance.
On the February 8th I spoke to Berta again. She had a phone number for him which had no answer. She sent me his information
and told me she would try again later. I couldn't wait to contact my brother Arthur Lee. I honestly did not know what I was going to
say if he answered the phone. My biggest fear was that he did not know he was adopted. My mother and I decided early on that if
he did not want to talk we would honor his wish. Our closure would come from knowing that he is alive and well.
With very little preparation I called the number. A deep southern voice answered the phone. I asked for Arthur Lee. The voice
replied, "This is Arthur Lee. Who are you calling with?" I told him that I might be his sister. I gave him information about himself
which he verified. We were both shaking and so excited! He had originally thought me to be a telemarketer! I told Arthur, who goes
by his middle name Lee, about our mom, myself and my older brother Jeremy. Lee told me all about himself and his family. He
has a beautiful wife and two younger siblings. His parents are wonderful people who told him from the beginning that he was
adopted and never loved him any less than their birth children.
After an hour and a half on the phone he was ready to talk to mom. I called her and said her son was expecting her call. She was
so excited! They spoke for over an hour exchanging pictures via email. He now knows where he got his full lips and high
cheekbones! Lee has our mom's smile! He understands the situation regarding his adoption and has no hard feelings. She
spoke to his wife, Melanie, who she said is such a sweetheart! Mom was elated to find out that he's had such a wonderful life! He
has experienced the life she dreamed for him before he was even born!
Lee and I talked late into the night. Not only did I find my brother, but gained a sister-in-law as well! They are both such wonderful
people and I'm so happy to finally have them in our lives! The best news is that his parents are as excited to meet us and we are
to meet them! We are making arrangements for the reunion to happen very soon!
Yesterday was the first day of the rest of our lives! My mother and I went into this hoping for the best, expecting the worst, and
came out with more than we could ever hope for! We woke up this morning knowing that we are all still here and ready for a
relationship that will last a lifetime!
Berta, you are truly a Godsend to this family! Thank you for all you've done for us! God bless you and your gift for reuniting loved
ones!
To be continued . . .
The following is a letter from "Lee" Christina's brother...
Berta,
Words can't describe. It has been an amazing 5 days for me. I talk on the phone all day at work and never even answer the phone
when I am at home. So it was truly shocking the one time I did pick the phone up on a lazy Sunday afternoon to get news like this.
Well, since Sunday, I have been on the phone with Cristina well past midnight 3 out of the 4 nights.
I have forwarded Cristina's story to many of my friends. The response has been so supportive.
My Mom and Dad are even excited about meeting everyone! At first I wasn't sure how they would fell about all this. I know how I
feel. I know how much I love them and all the things they have done for me. I was raised to do the right thing and work hard at
anything I do. I can't express the love and pride I have for my Mom and Dad. I am so glad they know this, as I know they love me
equally as much as my younger sister and brother, their paternal children. I can't even tell a story without bragging on my brother
and sister; they both mean so much to me. I have 3 nephews that are the most special people; the oldest of the 3 is truly special
to me. I get excited every time I talk to him! We are even going to spend some time together this summer! I could NEVER live
anywhere unless I was within driving distance of them. They are so special to me!
My parents and I talked again last night about meeting with my long lost relatives. They are as excited, if not more, to meet them
as they are us! Both of them stated how much they want to meet Dee face to face and thank her for sending me to them 35 years
ago.
To hear my Dad talk about the baby picture Dee sent me was very touching. I could hear the emotion in his voice, something you
aren't supposed to hear from us big southern men! We are making plans to meet in April.
Thanks,
Lee
This is an additional follow-up to Christina and Lee's story....
Dear Berta -
I am still stunned that after 4 years of searching my daughter found her brother she said she was always going to find. And I am
so blessed to know him and his wife thru email and telephone! His parents taught him wonderful morals and a solid life
structure. It is such a relief to know he is not angry and his family has opened their hearts to us. Without Cristina's doing the
searching I do not think we would have gotten this far, ever. And found out that Lee knew about me also after looking for records. I
still feel stunned after learning of this and talking to him on 2-8-04!
May the Lord Bless and Keep you and help you in your ventures of happy re-unions. I am so thankful that ours came out to be
one of happiness!
With much appreciation and respect,
Dee
Mother of my little worker Cristina who did the searching. And mostly with much love to Lee and Melanie and his whole
family! God Bless You All!
Dear Berta -
I am still stunned that after 4 years of searching my daughter found her brother she said she was always going to find. And I am
so blessed to know him and his wife thru email and telephone! His parents taught him wonderful morals and a solid life
structure. It is such a relief to know he is not angry and his family has opened their hearts to us. Without Cristina's doing the
searching I do not think we would have gotten this far, ever. And found out that Lee knew about me also after looking for records. I
still feel stunned after learning of this and talking to him on 2-8-04!
May the Lord Bless and Keep you and help you in your ventures of happy re-unions. I am so thankful that ours came out to be
one of happiness!
With much appreciation and respect,
Dee
Mother of my little worker Cristina who did the searching. And mostly with much love to Lee and Melanie and his whole
family! God Bless You All!
BIRTH MOTHER FOUND!
Hi...I am so Glad to have made it to a reunion page!!!! Praise God. I wanted to walk you through my relationship with Berta and
tell you what an angel she has been...when I look back on it now I know she was sent from God and you will see why....Right
before the Holidays my searching really started to wear on me...I didn't take the much given advice of getting support...I have 6
kids I am used to being the support..lol...but my search started to take its toll on my family...I was so driven but it wasn't God's
timing and I knew it...but thinking God needed my help...lol...I continued to spend many nights (with the help of another searcher
friend Linda whom became some support for me and a good buddy...)searching....I was prayed over at church and was told "you
will know your mother and she will know you" but now was good for me! Anywa,y the stress of the holidays and searching was
killing me and I took my husbands advice and laid it down...I had to give my mother and my control to God where it belonged in
the first place...one night I received and email from Berta....I was wondering how she found me..notice the words found
me...(God is good) she had seen my inquire on a genealogy page...and said she wanted to try a few things...I was thinking to be
honest after trying all I knew...that what could she pull out of her hat..lol..oh and let me tell you she writes me and says I think I
have something...1 day later...SHE'S got something...she gave me her number to call and when I called she said I have to call
you in 15 minutes...it felt like 15 weeks! She said give me until tomorrow...what we have looks good...I cried because I knew in
my heart this was from God...thurday night I went to church and I remember telling my children before I even knew for sure that
mommy was gonna get one of the most important phone calls of my life...and sure enough when I walked in Berta was on the
phone talking to my husband...she did in fact find Susan and I have a stepbrother to boot...2 days...vs 3 years and I did find my
dad's side of the family so I searched the best I could...but it was about timing and it was about God using Berta's skills to
reunite another family...people who have a heart for families are special people and those that use their God given talents for
his good are Blessed...My mother and I are so happy .. my brother Edward (we were adopted together) are loving on our new
relatives...we have grandparents that are still alive! This has been right up there with having babies of my own...my mother and I
act like we haven't missed a beat..she is loving and sincere and genuine...God gave me back what the devil tried to steal so
many years back....Berta....may God open heaven and shower back on you the kindness you have shown our family....This
woman knows her stuff and I believe that she can make your dreams come true as well...and remember alot of doors may
appear closed when searching- thats when you gotta have faith....
Love always,
Dawn Young....Lizano
Hi...I am so Glad to have made it to a reunion page!!!! Praise God. I wanted to walk you through my relationship with Berta and
tell you what an angel she has been...when I look back on it now I know she was sent from God and you will see why....Right
before the Holidays my searching really started to wear on me...I didn't take the much given advice of getting support...I have 6
kids I am used to being the support..lol...but my search started to take its toll on my family...I was so driven but it wasn't God's
timing and I knew it...but thinking God needed my help...lol...I continued to spend many nights (with the help of another searcher
friend Linda whom became some support for me and a good buddy...)searching....I was prayed over at church and was told "you
will know your mother and she will know you" but now was good for me! Anywa,y the stress of the holidays and searching was
killing me and I took my husbands advice and laid it down...I had to give my mother and my control to God where it belonged in
the first place...one night I received and email from Berta....I was wondering how she found me..notice the words found
me...(God is good) she had seen my inquire on a genealogy page...and said she wanted to try a few things...I was thinking to be
honest after trying all I knew...that what could she pull out of her hat..lol..oh and let me tell you she writes me and says I think I
have something...1 day later...SHE'S got something...she gave me her number to call and when I called she said I have to call
you in 15 minutes...it felt like 15 weeks! She said give me until tomorrow...what we have looks good...I cried because I knew in
my heart this was from God...thurday night I went to church and I remember telling my children before I even knew for sure that
mommy was gonna get one of the most important phone calls of my life...and sure enough when I walked in Berta was on the
phone talking to my husband...she did in fact find Susan and I have a stepbrother to boot...2 days...vs 3 years and I did find my
dad's side of the family so I searched the best I could...but it was about timing and it was about God using Berta's skills to
reunite another family...people who have a heart for families are special people and those that use their God given talents for
his good are Blessed...My mother and I are so happy .. my brother Edward (we were adopted together) are loving on our new
relatives...we have grandparents that are still alive! This has been right up there with having babies of my own...my mother and I
act like we haven't missed a beat..she is loving and sincere and genuine...God gave me back what the devil tried to steal so
many years back....Berta....may God open heaven and shower back on you the kindness you have shown our family....This
woman knows her stuff and I believe that she can make your dreams come true as well...and remember alot of doors may
appear closed when searching- thats when you gotta have faith....
Love always,
Dawn Young....Lizano
Grandmother Found....
In December of 2002 I started a search for my fathers, birth mother. I had reached a point where I felt stuck. Then along came
Berta (like an ANGEL from above). I have never met Berta in person but from the SUPPORT and FRIENDSHIP she offered me (a
complete stranger) I was amazed. Not only did I find my family but, I have made a new friend for life. I feel Berta was always very
honest with even in the toughest situations. Honest in the sweetest ways. The only other person that gave me support like Berta
was my mother. That should say everything right there. Before I start with the story of my search I want to THANK Berta. There
will never be enough words to say to her to thank her for all she has done for me and my family. I still get e-mails from her
checking in on me to see how things are going. She is quiet an amazing person. I know there are thousands of people
searching for lost family members and a search can be full of ups and downs. My wish for all of you out there searching is that
you get as lucky as I did to have someone as special as Berta to assist you in your search and may you be as honored as I am
to have met such an amazing person in my lifetime. Berta and I found my family in January of 2003 I felt as if Berta was by my
side the whole way, we are actually in different States. Before I made any moves I always confided in Berta. I was very nervous to
make the first contact, I let her know and there she was offering to do it for me. My search did not end with a happy ending,
Some of my family members have made a decision of not wanting us in there lives, so I respected that. I know who they are and
they know who we are and that is all it will ever be. In a situation like this time heals the pain. I felt a little rejected but in my heart
I know that I am not. All people react to things in all different ways. The way my family reacted has nothing to do with my father or
I. I never did get the chance to know my family but in the end, I did meet a wonderful friend. It takes someone very special to do
what Berta does. So may you be as blessed as I was, to have her assistance in your search.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU OUT THERE SEARCHING.
Kim S.E
In December of 2002 I started a search for my fathers, birth mother. I had reached a point where I felt stuck. Then along came
Berta (like an ANGEL from above). I have never met Berta in person but from the SUPPORT and FRIENDSHIP she offered me (a
complete stranger) I was amazed. Not only did I find my family but, I have made a new friend for life. I feel Berta was always very
honest with even in the toughest situations. Honest in the sweetest ways. The only other person that gave me support like Berta
was my mother. That should say everything right there. Before I start with the story of my search I want to THANK Berta. There
will never be enough words to say to her to thank her for all she has done for me and my family. I still get e-mails from her
checking in on me to see how things are going. She is quiet an amazing person. I know there are thousands of people
searching for lost family members and a search can be full of ups and downs. My wish for all of you out there searching is that
you get as lucky as I did to have someone as special as Berta to assist you in your search and may you be as honored as I am
to have met such an amazing person in my lifetime. Berta and I found my family in January of 2003 I felt as if Berta was by my
side the whole way, we are actually in different States. Before I made any moves I always confided in Berta. I was very nervous to
make the first contact, I let her know and there she was offering to do it for me. My search did not end with a happy ending,
Some of my family members have made a decision of not wanting us in there lives, so I respected that. I know who they are and
they know who we are and that is all it will ever be. In a situation like this time heals the pain. I felt a little rejected but in my heart
I know that I am not. All people react to things in all different ways. The way my family reacted has nothing to do with my father or
I. I never did get the chance to know my family but in the end, I did meet a wonderful friend. It takes someone very special to do
what Berta does. So may you be as blessed as I was, to have her assistance in your search.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU OUT THERE SEARCHING.
Kim S.E
Randi's Story...
Hi Berta;
I wanted to let you know about the progress between Freddi and I. Since that first letter we have been e-mailing one another
every day. In the past 5 days I have learned so much. I have learned things about my birthmother and the circumstances
leading up to my adoption. When she told me the story she was never once apologetic-she knew that she had the made the
right decision and although she missed and wondered about me throughout the years, is as sure-footed in that decision now
as she was then. I have always known that it was the right decision too. I have learned as much as I could in this very short time
about who she is today. More often than not, as I read about her I feel as though I am reading about myself. She told me that my
birthday and holidays were the worst for her. She seems to be as fascinated with me as I am with her. I am giddy! Would it
make sense to you if I told you I feel complete? I feel whole. I just fell asleep at my computer and I really must get some sleep. I
will send you a picture as soon as they arrive from Freddi. I will also send to you our letters to each other (with her permission)
and include you in any developments and happenings. I have been given many profound gifts that many in my position will
never be given. There is so much to be thankful for, including your help. Thank you for being a friend and a liaison. Thank you for
the advise that was both sound and heartfelt. Thank you for giving me leads that were on target every single time. Thank you for
being my angel in this experience.
Always your friend,
Randi 2003
Hi Berta;
I wanted to let you know about the progress between Freddi and I. Since that first letter we have been e-mailing one another
every day. In the past 5 days I have learned so much. I have learned things about my birthmother and the circumstances
leading up to my adoption. When she told me the story she was never once apologetic-she knew that she had the made the
right decision and although she missed and wondered about me throughout the years, is as sure-footed in that decision now
as she was then. I have always known that it was the right decision too. I have learned as much as I could in this very short time
about who she is today. More often than not, as I read about her I feel as though I am reading about myself. She told me that my
birthday and holidays were the worst for her. She seems to be as fascinated with me as I am with her. I am giddy! Would it
make sense to you if I told you I feel complete? I feel whole. I just fell asleep at my computer and I really must get some sleep. I
will send you a picture as soon as they arrive from Freddi. I will also send to you our letters to each other (with her permission)
and include you in any developments and happenings. I have been given many profound gifts that many in my position will
never be given. There is so much to be thankful for, including your help. Thank you for being a friend and a liaison. Thank you for
the advise that was both sound and heartfelt. Thank you for giving me leads that were on target every single time. Thank you for
being my angel in this experience.
Always your friend,
Randi 2003
Birthmother Found...
Dear Berta,
My husband, Phillip's, mom came to visit us today!!!
It is so hard to believe that just 7 days ago you found her for us, and she's been here and gone!!! It was a Wonderful reunion!!!
She stayed about 6 hours. She had an abundance of hugs and kisses for us all. She was so accepting and loving. It was so
emotional for all of us. But, my heart almost failed when after about the 12th time she had hugged my husband, I heard her
whisper in his ear, "I'm so sorry - Can you ever forgive me?". I almost lost it !!! As far as we are concerned, there is nothing to
forgive. There will definitely be more visits!! We will visit her for spring break, which is March 17-21st. We can't change the past,
but we sure can do something about the future!! And I know that there is a Happy future with our new family!!!
Did I tell you that just 4 years ago we lived within 20 miles of her and didn't know it!!! We were nearly next door neighbors!!! Life
is so weird sometimes!!!
My husband definitely looks like her. And now I know where my 12 year-old son gets his smarts - besides me!!! She is very
artistic and talented, loves to write stories and do illustrations - my son does the same thing!! It is scary how many similarities
there are!!! She brought pictures, and a really weird thing is that she has a nephew whose wife looks like me!!! This was
definitely meant to be!
"Mom" brought her younger sister with her. Now my husband has a new found mom and aunt - all in one day!! We have learned
that he has family in Mississippi, Alabama, Texas and Pennsylvania - I guess we'll be doing some traveling!!! The Aunt said
that after I called on Tuesday, Mom (I love having a new Mom!!) called all her family. Everyone is happy and excited for her. Mom
said that she had prayed all these years for Phillip's protection and salvation.
Berta, Thank you again for being our Angel. You will always be in our hearts!
Have a blessed day and prosperous New Year.
Becky in Florida
January 25, 2003
Dear Berta,
My husband, Phillip's, mom came to visit us today!!!
It is so hard to believe that just 7 days ago you found her for us, and she's been here and gone!!! It was a Wonderful reunion!!!
She stayed about 6 hours. She had an abundance of hugs and kisses for us all. She was so accepting and loving. It was so
emotional for all of us. But, my heart almost failed when after about the 12th time she had hugged my husband, I heard her
whisper in his ear, "I'm so sorry - Can you ever forgive me?". I almost lost it !!! As far as we are concerned, there is nothing to
forgive. There will definitely be more visits!! We will visit her for spring break, which is March 17-21st. We can't change the past,
but we sure can do something about the future!! And I know that there is a Happy future with our new family!!!
Did I tell you that just 4 years ago we lived within 20 miles of her and didn't know it!!! We were nearly next door neighbors!!! Life
is so weird sometimes!!!
My husband definitely looks like her. And now I know where my 12 year-old son gets his smarts - besides me!!! She is very
artistic and talented, loves to write stories and do illustrations - my son does the same thing!! It is scary how many similarities
there are!!! She brought pictures, and a really weird thing is that she has a nephew whose wife looks like me!!! This was
definitely meant to be!
"Mom" brought her younger sister with her. Now my husband has a new found mom and aunt - all in one day!! We have learned
that he has family in Mississippi, Alabama, Texas and Pennsylvania - I guess we'll be doing some traveling!!! The Aunt said
that after I called on Tuesday, Mom (I love having a new Mom!!) called all her family. Everyone is happy and excited for her. Mom
said that she had prayed all these years for Phillip's protection and salvation.
Berta, Thank you again for being our Angel. You will always be in our hearts!
Have a blessed day and prosperous New Year.
Becky in Florida
January 25, 2003
These next three letters are follow-ups to Becky's letter...
Berta,
I just wanted to say THANK YOU!! for finding my birth mother for me. WE spoke on the phone that day 1/21 and she and her
sister drove up here (about 600 miles) to see me and my family that following Saturday, 1/25. What a great experience ! She
could only stay a short time, as they had to leave that same day. However I am making plans to drive down to her house this
weekend to stay for three days.
Thanks oh so much for helping me find my birth mother, it has been some 46 years!! Mom and I plan to spend as much time
together as we can.
Thanks again,
Phillip in Florida
This is from Phillip's birth Mother: "FL"
Hello...Becky sent me your e-mail address.....and I DO thank you so much for helping to reunite me with my precious son!!! We
are overjoyed and looking forward to traveling down the rest of this roadside by side!
Once again...thank you!!
"FL"
Hi Berta,
We had a wonderful time at "Mom's" house last week. She really went overboard making us welcome!!! She had sent me
e-mails (prior to our visit) asking what each of us liked to eat and drink, and she had everything there waiting for us!!! It was a
great time of fellowship and eating!!! We did many fun things together and had many great talks. She told us more about her
life and we shared more about ours. It was great.
I hope that every person you help will have a happy ending like ours!!
Thank you again for being a caring heart.
Love,
Becky in Florida
March 24, 2003
Berta,
I just wanted to say THANK YOU!! for finding my birth mother for me. WE spoke on the phone that day 1/21 and she and her
sister drove up here (about 600 miles) to see me and my family that following Saturday, 1/25. What a great experience ! She
could only stay a short time, as they had to leave that same day. However I am making plans to drive down to her house this
weekend to stay for three days.
Thanks oh so much for helping me find my birth mother, it has been some 46 years!! Mom and I plan to spend as much time
together as we can.
Thanks again,
Phillip in Florida
This is from Phillip's birth Mother: "FL"
Hello...Becky sent me your e-mail address.....and I DO thank you so much for helping to reunite me with my precious son!!! We
are overjoyed and looking forward to traveling down the rest of this roadside by side!
Once again...thank you!!
"FL"
Hi Berta,
We had a wonderful time at "Mom's" house last week. She really went overboard making us welcome!!! She had sent me
e-mails (prior to our visit) asking what each of us liked to eat and drink, and she had everything there waiting for us!!! It was a
great time of fellowship and eating!!! We did many fun things together and had many great talks. She told us more about her
life and we shared more about ours. It was great.
I hope that every person you help will have a happy ending like ours!!
Thank you again for being a caring heart.
Love,
Becky in Florida
March 24, 2003
She knew she was adopted 2004 By Marnie L. Newman
My mother had a daughter a year after me that she had to put up for adoption, at the demand of my grandmother. I was raised
knowing that I have a younger sister. Not a day went by that Mom & I didn't think of her. When I first got a computer years ago I would
stay up until 3am every morning searching for my sister on every reunion site I could find. I would become exhausted & stop for a
while. But, I was determined to find my sister for my mother. My mother didn't want to search for her because she "didn't want to be
selfish by announcing to her that we are her birth family if she didn't know." These words echoed in my head for years. Was I being
selfish? I had to keep searching & deal with that when the time came.
I was approached by numerous searchers who saw my postings. One overnighted a package with her success stories & her $800+
fees. One emailed me the first name initial of my sisters birth father like she was dangling a carrot in front of me. Again it was big
$$$ for answers. Then one day I was contacted by Berta. I was very nasty to her during our first call. I thought she was like THEM.
She understood how vulnerable I was and quickly calmed my anger. Berta gave me all my sisters information within two days.
Obviously she had to charge me something because this is what she does to keep a roof over her head. It was nowhere near what
the OTHERS quoted me.
Now I had to deal with that nagging feeling, "Does she know she was adopted?" Now that I had her adopted name I found her
email. I sent her an email stating that I was searching for my adopted sister. I stated, "This in no way means your adopted. It just
means you share the same date of birth." One night I got a late night phone call (3 hour time difference). She said she got my email.
I asked if it were possible that she was who I was looking for? I already knew she was. She had a lot of questions for me before she
would confirm. Because she had been searching for years too. After being on the phone for until 2am my time we finally hung up.
Not without our plan on how to tell Mom. We were reunited for 3 hours & already we were plotting together :-)
I called Mom the next morning & told her that my sister found me through one of my many postings. They talked on the phone for the
first time that day. Needless to say we hopped on a plane from New Jersey to California. My son now has 4 cousins. They chat on
the computer all the time. We adults have a cellphone family plan. They came here for Thanksgiving & are planning to move here
when school lets out. We were reunited just in time. Her adopted mother passed away the year before. Her life seemed to be falling
apart. Now she & the kids have five more family members.
This wouldn't have happened if I kept thinking, "Does she know she was adopted?" If she didn't know when she was young she
certainly would have found out when she started having kids. She often wondered why three of her kids had red hair & freckles.
Today it is so important to at least have family medical history. My sister finally knows what that itchy skin is on her elbows. Don't let
your fears hold you back.
Thanks Berta for contacting me & reuniting us!
Marnie
My mother had a daughter a year after me that she had to put up for adoption, at the demand of my grandmother. I was raised
knowing that I have a younger sister. Not a day went by that Mom & I didn't think of her. When I first got a computer years ago I would
stay up until 3am every morning searching for my sister on every reunion site I could find. I would become exhausted & stop for a
while. But, I was determined to find my sister for my mother. My mother didn't want to search for her because she "didn't want to be
selfish by announcing to her that we are her birth family if she didn't know." These words echoed in my head for years. Was I being
selfish? I had to keep searching & deal with that when the time came.
I was approached by numerous searchers who saw my postings. One overnighted a package with her success stories & her $800+
fees. One emailed me the first name initial of my sisters birth father like she was dangling a carrot in front of me. Again it was big
$$$ for answers. Then one day I was contacted by Berta. I was very nasty to her during our first call. I thought she was like THEM.
She understood how vulnerable I was and quickly calmed my anger. Berta gave me all my sisters information within two days.
Obviously she had to charge me something because this is what she does to keep a roof over her head. It was nowhere near what
the OTHERS quoted me.
Now I had to deal with that nagging feeling, "Does she know she was adopted?" Now that I had her adopted name I found her
email. I sent her an email stating that I was searching for my adopted sister. I stated, "This in no way means your adopted. It just
means you share the same date of birth." One night I got a late night phone call (3 hour time difference). She said she got my email.
I asked if it were possible that she was who I was looking for? I already knew she was. She had a lot of questions for me before she
would confirm. Because she had been searching for years too. After being on the phone for until 2am my time we finally hung up.
Not without our plan on how to tell Mom. We were reunited for 3 hours & already we were plotting together :-)
I called Mom the next morning & told her that my sister found me through one of my many postings. They talked on the phone for the
first time that day. Needless to say we hopped on a plane from New Jersey to California. My son now has 4 cousins. They chat on
the computer all the time. We adults have a cellphone family plan. They came here for Thanksgiving & are planning to move here
when school lets out. We were reunited just in time. Her adopted mother passed away the year before. Her life seemed to be falling
apart. Now she & the kids have five more family members.
This wouldn't have happened if I kept thinking, "Does she know she was adopted?" If she didn't know when she was young she
certainly would have found out when she started having kids. She often wondered why three of her kids had red hair & freckles.
Today it is so important to at least have family medical history. My sister finally knows what that itchy skin is on her elbows. Don't let
your fears hold you back.
Thanks Berta for contacting me & reuniting us!
Marnie
Birth Family Found 2006
My story has taken 22 years to unfold. My adoption took place in 1959. When I was 25 years old, I was advised that I had been
adopted. Since it was so long ago, I could never find anything on my own. This past July, I came across Berta's website. She had all
the information for me in 2 days. I thought this would turn out well. I was wrong. My birth mother was upset that I found her. She had
worked so hard to put all of this behind her. My birth father had already passed away. However, I found that I have a full blood sister.
My birth mother does not want my sister to know anything. Because of her request not to contact my sister, I will not. I do not want to
upset my mother anymore.
But there is more. On the family genealogy site, I found a distant cousin on my father's side. She is mailing me the family tree that
she has. I also found out I have a 1/2 sister. I do not know if I will make contact as of yet. Berta is an angel. She was concerned when
I told her this was not a positive connection. I can "never" thank her enough for giving me, to me. Does that make sense? Now, I know
my background. That has always been very important to me. Thank you Berta and may God continue to bless you as he has me.
Kim
May God bless you and
keep you in his loving arms.
UPDATE!!!! 2007
I just want to thank you Berta for helping me to find my sisters. In July of 2006, I contacted you trying to locate my birth parents. It
turned out not to be what I thought. My father had already passed away, and my mother had tried to put all of it behind her. I
understand her reasoning...now.
Great news is that I finally made contact with my sister Barb. I kept sending emails to her and she became curious as to who I was.
Long story short, she called me on my way home from work thinking I may be a long lost cousin. I did not know that, and told her the
truth myself. This was on 2/6/07 and my life has changed dramatically since then.
Then, Barb said that she was going to tell our 1/2 sister Cheryl. I spoke with Cheryl and we both cried. Cheryl also has 2 sons, my
nephews. I am flying back to California in July 07' to meet my sisters face to face. I cannot wait.
I pray that someday, my biological mother will come around. Barb said she is starting to and that "Phyllis" saved the pictures I sent
her of my daughter & I on her computer. We'll see!!!
Thank you Berta for making my life complete now. You are an Angel of God.
My story has taken 22 years to unfold. My adoption took place in 1959. When I was 25 years old, I was advised that I had been
adopted. Since it was so long ago, I could never find anything on my own. This past July, I came across Berta's website. She had all
the information for me in 2 days. I thought this would turn out well. I was wrong. My birth mother was upset that I found her. She had
worked so hard to put all of this behind her. My birth father had already passed away. However, I found that I have a full blood sister.
My birth mother does not want my sister to know anything. Because of her request not to contact my sister, I will not. I do not want to
upset my mother anymore.
But there is more. On the family genealogy site, I found a distant cousin on my father's side. She is mailing me the family tree that
she has. I also found out I have a 1/2 sister. I do not know if I will make contact as of yet. Berta is an angel. She was concerned when
I told her this was not a positive connection. I can "never" thank her enough for giving me, to me. Does that make sense? Now, I know
my background. That has always been very important to me. Thank you Berta and may God continue to bless you as he has me.
Kim
May God bless you and
keep you in his loving arms.
UPDATE!!!! 2007
I just want to thank you Berta for helping me to find my sisters. In July of 2006, I contacted you trying to locate my birth parents. It
turned out not to be what I thought. My father had already passed away, and my mother had tried to put all of it behind her. I
understand her reasoning...now.
Great news is that I finally made contact with my sister Barb. I kept sending emails to her and she became curious as to who I was.
Long story short, she called me on my way home from work thinking I may be a long lost cousin. I did not know that, and told her the
truth myself. This was on 2/6/07 and my life has changed dramatically since then.
Then, Barb said that she was going to tell our 1/2 sister Cheryl. I spoke with Cheryl and we both cried. Cheryl also has 2 sons, my
nephews. I am flying back to California in July 07' to meet my sisters face to face. I cannot wait.
I pray that someday, my biological mother will come around. Barb said she is starting to and that "Phyllis" saved the pictures I sent
her of my daughter & I on her computer. We'll see!!!
Thank you Berta for making my life complete now. You are an Angel of God.
BirthSearcher.com
Reuniting Birth Families Since 1997
Berta Wilder
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BIRTH MOTHER FOUND
Berta,
I wanted to thank you so much for all of you hard work and dedication. Your passion for your work is evident by your great
success. In my case, and in those of friends I have sent you, you have been able to do what seemed an impossibility.
In case this gets posted, I was 41 years old when I contacted you. My adoption took place in California when I was 3 days
old. My mother had moved back to the East Coast and she naturally had a name change. I knew some basic information
which I sent you. Within 48 hours I had all the information that was needed to locate my mother.
I contacted her 3 days before Christmas. It was of course an interesting phone call as fear of the unknown can play with your
nerves. The first few moments were nail biters, since her husband answered the phone. But after a few moments I was able
to talk to her and catch up on 41 years of history.
There were allot of emotions being carried around all of those years, and the call helped answer numerous questions she
had. It was all that I could have hoped for, and it was a great experience for us both.
I went to visit in mid January and met my mom and step dad. I also met my Aunt and Uncle and some fantastic cousins. I
was there several days, and was not nearly enough time to get everything done that I wanted.
I have plans on a summer trip with my family here to go back there and well, lets say make my family considerably larger. It
is still a little surreal when I think of these new members of my family, this has worked out better than I could have imagined.
Once again thank you for your tireless work and zeal for what you do. You have been a true blessing.
Chris
Berta,
I wanted to thank you so much for all of you hard work and dedication. Your passion for your work is evident by your great
success. In my case, and in those of friends I have sent you, you have been able to do what seemed an impossibility.
In case this gets posted, I was 41 years old when I contacted you. My adoption took place in California when I was 3 days
old. My mother had moved back to the East Coast and she naturally had a name change. I knew some basic information
which I sent you. Within 48 hours I had all the information that was needed to locate my mother.
I contacted her 3 days before Christmas. It was of course an interesting phone call as fear of the unknown can play with your
nerves. The first few moments were nail biters, since her husband answered the phone. But after a few moments I was able
to talk to her and catch up on 41 years of history.
There were allot of emotions being carried around all of those years, and the call helped answer numerous questions she
had. It was all that I could have hoped for, and it was a great experience for us both.
I went to visit in mid January and met my mom and step dad. I also met my Aunt and Uncle and some fantastic cousins. I
was there several days, and was not nearly enough time to get everything done that I wanted.
I have plans on a summer trip with my family here to go back there and well, lets say make my family considerably larger. It
is still a little surreal when I think of these new members of my family, this has worked out better than I could have imagined.
Once again thank you for your tireless work and zeal for what you do. You have been a true blessing.
Chris
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